Just how honest should we be with the people we become emotionally involved with? I, by nature, am a compulsive sharer- I will put everything out on the table, good or bad. My friends accept the bad (whoof. At times it seems like a LOT of bad) and the good. the people that chose NOT to be my friends evidently saw something that they just couldn't stand. That's how it is, you know? Either immediate adoration or loathing. Hmmmmmm. Back to the point; honesty, My boyfriend is out of the country, playing with guns in a huge, mountain-rimmed sandbox. In his last letter, one of the questions he sent me was, "How do you fight?" Here's a sticky situation; I DON'T fight, unless someone goads me into it. If they're willing to push long enough, I SNAP, and say something so vitriolic that even I can't believe it came out of my mouth. It's usually something true and intended to wound, and this is one facet of my personality that I'm ashamed of. Looking at my parents, I can see where I got it; my mother fights exactly the same way. You can say about six inflammatory remarks to her before she says something really cutting, and then you've got some serious issues to deal with. How do you tell a potential husband this without him freaking out? I've NEVER done this to a boyfriend or even just a friend, but I will pull it out when dealing with my family. Do I just say...it's hard to upset me, which is true? Will he feel like it's ok to open up to me about the way he fights? That's the other thing; I may not like out and out fights, but a good, clean argument is great, and going up against an opponent who can eloquently defend their point is exhilerating. I don't want a man that rolls over and lets me treat him like dirt or lets me choose his opinions. On the other hand, if I write to him what I just put out for the whole web to read (ironic, no?) I couldn't expect him to not have some reservations. Note: I already wrote back....told him all. Honesty is more important, and if he really loves me we can work through it, right? Wish me luck. You know, when you're about four years old, you're sure that by the time you want a guy, you'll have one and you and Prince Charming will ride off into the sunset together. Disney and all other modern fairytale sources tell you this. What they didn't tell you was that it would be this hard.